Restlessness and calm occupy positions on either end of the spectrum of your personal stability. Either sensation can grip you at any time, and it can be hard to identify the causes. We generally strive for some sort of balance between the two extremes. However, it is not always achievable, especially when life hits you with unexpected situations. It helps to bear in mind that times of anxiety and restlessness don’t last forever. Eventually they pass, and you can establish serenity again.
The Times When Control Seems To Elude You
There are times in your life when you go through periods of absolute calm. You advance from one activity to another in a controlled, disciplined way. Likewise, you sometimes wake up in one of those moods of anxiety and restlessness. It is difficult to fix your attention on one thing, and you end up flitting around from this to that. When you feel like this it seems as if you make no serious inroads into anything, but end up just scratching the surface. Encountering a day like this can be both disheartening, and highly unsatisfying.
The Difficulty Of Identifying Causes
It’s hard to know how you should tackle these occurrences, especially when you are in the midst of one. When you feel restless it seems similar to having an excess of energy. so perhaps one way forward is to do something to expend that pent up sensation. Even a five minute walk in the fresh air can be just enough to relieve the feeling long enough for you to re-establish your sense of control.
In addition, anxiety and restlessness can often be attributed to nervous energy, which results in an inability to focus. In this case, isolating one activity, preferably the one at the top of your to do list, and throwing yourself into it body and soul, to the exclusion of everything else, can help diffuse the mood. Action always beats sitting around thinking and worrying.
Controlling Anxiety And Restlessness
Controlling mood is about finding inner harmony. Easier to say than to achieve. A major issue to consider is that everyone’s manifestation of this is different. For this reason, there is no definite formula for making it happen. You have a different emotional balance to other people, so you have to develop your own methods for handling it. Reflecting on how you have dealt with an occurrence of anxiety and restlessness in the past can give you ideas of what does or doesn’t work well for you.
Having a role model can be helpful. Do you know someone who is always cool no matter what? It can be someone you know, or you can imagine a well-known person, or even make someone up, who fits the profile. If you can visualise how that person would behave when a fit of restlessness attacks, you can copy them. Form a mental picture of the pressures and demands put on that person, and then see them evoking calm within the chaos. Even if this imagining is a fiction, it gives you a direction and an image of what you would like to aim for in the future.
All photos taken by Ju Underwood in Linlithgow, Scotland